Move Like The Flow Of Water

ove with the Flow of Water.
There are times in relationships that everything seems surreal, almost like the relationship is a shell you want to break free from. That is because most relationships, though they may claim to be….even have good intention to be…. are static. There is no flexibility to be able to change and grow.

Well at least that is what it seems. (I am hoping some are able to “move with the flow of water” after reading this article.)
Most relationships soon feel that “bond”. Soon feel the restrictions, soon feel the conditions, soon feel their wings being clipped, soon feel stuck and wanting to break free, to have the situation being anything else.
A soul must be free…….. your and theirs!

You see every time, you looked away, every time you spoke harshly, every time you didn’t just hug them, every time you degraded, every time ignored, every time you lied, every name you called, every time you took them for granted, every time you didn’t open up and love them for them, every time you didn’t whisper how thankful you were for what they did that day, EVERYDAY, for every time you focused only on the bad, every time you tried to change and gave up, and for every time you shy’d away, ever time you didn’t share, every time you resented them for not knowing you, every time you felt alone, every time you carried that pain and made judgments because of that pain, for every time you made them cry, for every time you made them feel confined, for every time you held them to who they were and not allowing them to change, you pit conditions on something who’s pure nature is unconditional love.

I hope I don’t have you running scared from your partner, or wiping tears from you face. Feeling hopeless, because it is that bond in which makes you feel the love, it is the conditions that your relationship has placed on you that gives you direction, that marks the lines, that lets you know that there are limits to what the other can do, and this is just as true for them. We feel security and the same time we feel unstable
Before I go any further on my own thoughts, I want to repeat something here that I read from a Neal Donald Walsh book.

He says in part in his book that the Ten Commandments are not COMMANDMENTS………. they are only indicators that you have learned to love unconditionally.

For when you love another
you would not cheat, you would not steal, you would love your neighbor………

When you are free, (which is what love is), *when your partner is free*, to be able to grow, to be able to change, to be able to explore yourself, you will not want to ruin that “bond” which ties you two. No in fact your bond will become stronger, It will no longer be this tight heavy shell, which suffocates, and taunts the core of you.
You see, when you truly love your partner, you will not have fear of them leaving you, fear of them wanting another, fear of them not liking you, fear of you leaving them, the fear of not liking them, the fear of being confined, the fear of never being free, the fear of wasting time, the fear of hopelessness, the fear of being YOU!

You have to realize something to be able to move forward, The love is there, they do love you, and they are silently, or not so silently, feeling the same way. You have to realize that fear is what holds you confined. So right this moment focus on the love that is there. And take the perception that if they are willing to be with you in all the bad, why would they not want to be with you in the good, isn’t that what you both are waiting for????
So, what does being free actually mean? Well it means to be able to grow, to learn form mistakes, to make mistakes, to dislike and then like, to observe, think, believe, express and any moment, and holding no restrictions on the moment what it has passed as being a concrete belief or thought, or belief.

Everyday you learn, everyday you brain is stimulated, every day you are introduced to new stimuli in your environment, everyday you feel something and make a thought on that feeling and then make a belief on that thought………..

Now here is the core of it all……

“everyday you feel something and make a thought on that feeling and then make a belief on that thought.”

The solution to loving freely does not lie so much in how you feel, it lies what you think and what you let become a belief……..

Most people speak before they think. This is the down fall…..

How many things were done out of spite, how many words were spoken out of anger, how many promises were broken out of resentment, how many words remained unspoken, how many moments lost, simply because you did not take it as your responsibility to control your emotions, because you did not take the opportunity to process information before making a decision, how many tears did you caused, how many sad looks?
All because you did not utilize what you were taught all of your childhood years in math and science class to do. Use your mind!!!! Solve the problem by looking at the facts, gathering data, comparing information, making a clear assessment of what you believe.

And knowing you can take the same problem, change the equation by .0000001 percent, or add a particle or take a particle away……..you get a whole new answer.,

Feelings are not leaders, feelings are indicators that something is not in alignment, something needs to be done to solve the problem , to look at the facts, to gather data, to compare information, to make a clear assessment of what we believe.

Feelings are mere indicators to let you know when you feel good and when you feel bad, love/fear. You need to become aware of feelings for what they are, indicators, not reasons. Feelings are not who you are!!1 Feels are tools in assessing situation of your life and yourself. Feelings are not meant to be followed. When you follow your feelings, claim them to be what you think and what you believe, when those feelings are less then love, you will experience being restricted.

You have to forgive the past for you and others. You can not hold them to what they use to do or say or not do or not say. You have to focus on the NOW, every moment in the NOW, acting on the NOW, not asking the past be NOW, letting your partner change, let them share there change with you, let them learn to explore you. Freely love each other in the NOW. For the past will confine you, and the future is FREE… for anything to happen.
So simply allow yourself to process moments, stimuli, feeling, information, and just make it aware openly that that is what you are going to do, and then communicate when it is figured out in your head as something you are going to make a belief for you.

Have an understand with your partner, that you are processing your thoughts and feelings, and you don’t want to discuss or react to a situation at the moment. Allow them to do the same…… FREELY……. even if it takes days. And don’t hold resentment toward them, don’t contemplate what they are feeling, don’t push them to express there thoughts, don’t hold them or you in that place of a moment that is IN THE PROCESS OF BEING SOMETHING ELSE.

There needs to be a loving understanding here, to let the other do just that, make a clear decision on what they feel, let them gather their data, let them solve the problem, lovingly agree for that to be able to happen, and move toward it and away form it with respect, softness, love and understanding….. If you can both do this, this is a huge part of letting each other be free. The other part is no matter what is said, even after the PROCESSING, you can not claim that to be who they are or who you are. Because that is not true, that is only you or them, in that moment. Do this also with respect, softness, love, understanding, freely………….

When you love them freely, you allow them to work on transforming that bond from a tight shell that had them enclosed, from a tight shell that had them wanting to break free. When you love them freely, you let them realize that that shell, well that is not at all what it is “a shell, something that confines and restricts, no it is an elastic band, that can stretch across the universe and back, that can bend, turn and twist, that moves with the flow of water. It is just in a knot from all the twisting and turning. When you love freely you allow them to help you to untie that knot.

When they love you freely, they also allow you to work on transforming that bond from a tight shell that had you enclosed, from a tight shell that had you wanting to break free. When they love you freely, they let you realize that that shell, well that is not at all what it is “a shell, something that confines and restricts, no it is an elastic band, that can stretch across the universe and back, that can bend, turn and twist, that moves with the flow of water. It is just in a knot from all the twisting and turning. When they love freely they allow you to help them to untie that knot.

Flow……….!!!!!

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